we met at the bank yesterday and things went comparatively smoother. there was a substantial amount of fussing/crying but i was able to distract parker enough to get her buckled into the car and on her way. bk texted me about 10 minutes after they left to tell me she had mellowed out and was doing fine. 'renzo came home exhausted and miss p was really weepy at bedtime but still, it gave d and i a chance to have dinner with meme and j. there was some switching *shock* around of days. he's cancelled thursday for some unexplained reason and picked up wednesday. he tried to cancel yesterday but i told him firmly, and kindly, that i already had plans.
as far as letters, pictures, that kind of thing, i don't see him as terribly motivated to do things like that. he's been offered (and requested by ina) a chance to go to a session with/about parker and has declined or ignored on more than one occasion. this is a man who has denied his financial responsibilities to the kids for over a year... i'm thinking that if it was really about the kids' best interest things would be different all the way around.